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The Woman That I Am… #RRxMM

The Woman That I Am…

…is careful to use the right words and tone while talking to others, but is at her harshest when talking to herself.

…has the wisdom and patience to bear every mistake made by the ones she loves, but none when she makes her own.

…has used up her reserves of kindness so liberally that she cannot find even a trace of it when she needs some.

…carves out time for everyone and every little thing, and faces a paucity of it when it comes to herself.

…keeps everyone in mind before making a choice and decision, while what she wants doesn’t figure anywhere on the list.

…is a good listener, but has silenced that inner voice that tells her what she does not want to hear.

…believes in doing everything to keep the peace, while a war rages inside.

…exceeds the expectations of others, and falls short for the few she has from herself.

…thinks of herself as someone who is powerful and emancipated while she ascertains that her thoughts and inhibitions bind her more than people do.

…has acknowledged that she has created a different persona for the world to see, one that is a complete contrast to what she really feels within, and refuses to live that lie anymore.

…does not regret a single day that she has lived so far, but it ready to re-mould herself anew.

The Woman That I Am…

…has turned her back to the Girl she left behind, and is ready to meet the Woman she has always aspired to be.

The Woman That I Am…could be me, could be you, could be every woman.


“This post is a part of ‘The Woman That I Am’ Blog Hop #TheWomanThatIAm organized by Rashi Roy and Manas Mukul #RRxMM. The Event is sponsored by Kraffitti. ” Join us and celebrate womanhood on this International Women’s Day.



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  1. Mayuri Nidigallu Priyanka Nair

    This is indeed a beautiful post M direct dil se. The day you said you have scheduled your post I was waiting to read it. I always love reading you and you inspire to aspire lady.

  2. This is absolutely true , you explained it very well, there is a lot of difference in how women should behave with others and what she should expect from her. Most of the men and women also misunderstood her silence but can’t digest when she speaks for her rights. Full Hippocrates behaviour.

  3. Like you said it could be any one of us who is living for others but not really for oneself. Hope we all become the woman we aspire to be
    P.s. Apt cover photo! Loved it.

  4. Lobed reading your poetry!! It resonates so well with many women I feel. Specially loved the part where you wrote has used up all the kindness for others but has none left for herself. I feel that is what we all women do we bind ourselves to our family and are so good at taking care of others but when it comes to looking after ourselves we never have the time left.

    1. Thank you for reading, Shail.

  5. Mayuri Nidigallu Harshita Dawar

    This to show how your inner strength well penned beautiful as your soul

  6. Mayuri Nidigallu Jyoti Jha

    An exquisite presentation of the endless struggles within a woman’s heart and mind in her quest to be perfect in every role; and while she gracefully accepts her battles, its time she moves ahead to live her dreams and herself.

    1. Thank you for these beautiful words, Jyoti.

  7. Mayuri Nidigallu Aparna

    Brilliantly penned… You have such talent in writing that not only does it tell us more about you but each of us identify with what you have written. Love the post and love the picture

    1. Thank you for these lovely words, Aparna.

  8. Intropsection is always the key to know yourself and the world. You have explained it so well and succintly.

    1. Story of every superwoman who has time for everyone but not herself. But as you wrote it’s high time to rewind to the girl within. We all should give time to ourself !!

  9. Loved reading your post. you write so beautifully how a beautiful woman absorbed each and every heard situation with their kindness for others.

    1. Glad you liked what I wrote, Surabhi.

  10. Hi Mayuri! I loved the way you spoke your heart. Yes, sometimes we talk harsh to ourselves, it’s true. But I liked the thought that you re mould yourself to born anew. More power to you. Love and respect.

  11. Mayuri Nidigallu Deepti

    Just so apt….crisp precise and everyone’s reality….well written!!

  12. Story of every superwoman who has time for everyone except her. But s you wrote it’s high time you go back to the girl within you !! We all should take time for ourself and live the life we aspire.

  13. I loved it Mayuri …esp that part harsh to herself …no time for self …it’s so heart touching we all acknowledge this but are not able to get out of this

  14. Lovely thoughts on what it is to be a woman. The expectations and the feelings we may not always express. Hopefully the new decade will change attitudes towards women from bottom up where it counts and matters the most.

  15. Wow-what a wonderful post for the woman that is me, you or any. The last line just made me read it again and again when you say – she has created a different persona for the world to see, one that is a complete contrast to what she really feels within, and refuses to live that lie anymore.
    Living on your own terms is not easy but that only makes you what you are.
    You write so nice that one can’t stop reading it again.

    1. PraGun I am as happy to read your comment as you are to read my post. Thanks so much!

  16. I always admire those who come out with their real feel, you are one of those. Wonderful write up. Keep writing and keep inspiring..

    1. Thank you for your kind words, Ramandeep.

  17. u have very well captured the irony of women’s life.. we are the hardest on ourselves… true to core…

  18. What balance balance between what is expected from us, the reality and what we aspire. Loved reading it Mayuri !

  19. Beautiful way of introspection. Women are always harsh on themselves. Loved how you expressed it so well. Resonates with most of us. Beautiful.
    Deepika Sharma

  20. You made me realize how harsh we are with ourselves at times! Such a well-written post!

    1. I am so happy to read your interpretation of it, Ninu! Thank you!

  21. Wow! Mayuri such a wonderful post and the last line sums it up best. It is all of us….not just you who’s writing it.

  22. Mayuri Nidigallu Surbhi

    Such an honest and heartfelt post Mayuri, totally loved it. As women, we are harshest with ourselves while being kind to others. This is what needs to change.

    1. I am so glad you agree Surbhi. Thanks for reading.

  23. Bang on! How many times have we seen our mothers put themselves at the end and end up doing the same? Not anymore, though. Love the way you presented it.

    P.S: Is that an owl tattoo? 😀

    1. Thank you, Srivalli. Yes that is a Polynesian Owl Tattoo 🙂

  24. Beautifully penned. Living life on your own terms and taking charge of the life attitude In order to please others we often forget our own happiness and sanity.

  25. That is a story of every woman . Living more for others is the basic quality of all females . Great words Mayuri

  26. Hey M, wonderful reading your post.
    I know you are an amazing woman and this post is so inspiring.
    Be the strong lady you are today and forever. Women are harsh on themselves no doubt about it, else how would we tolerate the things we experience everyday but at the end of the day it is important to love ourselves. It is a reality check what you mentioned in the post. Thank you for writing it.

    1. Thanks so for your encouraging words, Roms.

  27. I love this new woman, M. High time she comes out. The girl has lived her part and should make a graceful exit now. We want to see the M who puts herself before others and doesn’t hide anything behind that brilliant smile!

  28. Wow…you have so beautifully explained how a woman gives her all to others and forgets herself. Beautifully penned.

  29. What a lovely take on the turmoils a woman faces. We are perhaps our harshest critic and need to show some love to ourselves first

  30. Loved your post, Mayuri. Moving from expectations to self-awareness. And particularly the way you ended it… “ready to be the woman you aspire to be”. We women are always a bit harsh on ourselves, irrespective of people’s expectations of us.

  31. We women think so much and most of the time it’s for everyone except ourselves.
    I would just like to take this post as an opportunity to say M that you are gem of a person.

    1. Love you, Manisha. You are always so encouraging.

  32. Omg Mayuri this is so apt!
    We are the harshest with ourselves! Completely agree 🙂

  33. Yet another amazing post Mayuri.
    I always knew that a woman was usually at the sacrificing end, but this post was a reality check and slowly this connotation is changing and women are being treated equals. Now that I think I just realize how much my mother and sisters and other women change themselves.

    1. Thank you, Sundeep. Glad you shared your thoughts.

  34. Even if society sketches women and their ways. Somewhere women really need to accept the fact that they should live a small part of their lives for themselves 🙂 clear depiction of a women.

  35. I liked the way you expressed yourself. Beautiful choice of words. This post is an apt reminder for self-love, self-care and self-compassion.

  36. Every word is related, we are so harsh on ourselves and judging if we are a good mom or wife or DIL and Daughter. We need to relax. Beautiful post.
    I loved that tatoo

  37. You have portrayed so well the real story of every woman out there, who is suppose to behave around the norms preset by the society, by keeping aside her own wish thoughts. But I must confess that it feels good, now a days time and mindset of societies are changing for better version.

    1. Thank you, Archana. Yes things do seem to be changing. High time!

  38. Wow!! That was a very honest and powerful post. You are so right, this woman could be anyone. Women keep the needs of others before them. They know they are ignoring themselves in the bargain, but she continues to do so. I agree, high time we all look what we need and give some time to ourselves. Loved reading your post.

  39. Mayuri Nidigallu Yatindra Tawde

    You have expressed yourself really well without using too many words – Yatindra Tawde

  40. That’s a lovely post. I have always felt that we need to love ourselves more.

  41. Such a true portrayal of the life and thoughts of a woman.. You also wrote it so beautifully.. Could feel each word and could relate to most of your thoughts..And it shows how easily we follow the expected norms of the society rather than live freely..Lots of best wishes for your future writing..

  42. What a beautiful poem, Mayuri. Every line was direct dil se. You have juxtaposed so beautifully. What we do for others and how we neglect when it comes to us.You have brought out what actually the word WOmen means.

  43. What the dual mind and voices in our mind talks, is beautifully shared in a Poetic way…
    More power to you

  44. Such a beautiful post and I loved the way you had expressed innermost emotions of each women. indeed, as a women we always put others above then ourselves.

  45. Mayuri Nidigallu Sangya Nagpal

    Hi Mayuri.You have poured out every woman’s heart in your write up.Beautifully penned.❤️
    Sangya Nagpal

  46. As much as I know you through your writing, each line is reflecting your true charm. A strong yet jolly person who knows well how to maintain a balance in life with living your dream.
    Lovely read Mayuri!

  47. Such a straight from the heart post srimiri, sometimes it gets so difficult to express self but you have done it with such an ease.. Loved it

  48. Woman in me, in you is a Shakti. She has the power and capability to do whatever she want to do. She is so humble that she can forgive someone and won’t complain on forgiving. But yes, sometimes this quality of hers is undervalued and taken for granted. What exactly does she do is the question that is asked to her but the correct question should what’s now that she don’t do. She is a daughter, a sister,a wife, a mom and more. Can anyone plaY these many roles that diligently??

    Happy International women’s day to you in advance…

  49. Mayuri Nidigallu Neeraja Ganesh

    Let 2020 be the year when you become the woman you really want to be(as you know what that woman is!) Good luck!

  50. The words are suble yet powerful! Liked the itaclic and regular font combination to prove a point. The phrase with not finding kindness is so true. Also the war raging within. You have mirrored your feelings perfectly!

    1. Thank you so much, Srishti.

  51. Loved the post. We leave our younger versions behind. Sometimes for the good and sometimes not for the good. What say?

    1. True. It’s because we are evolving. Growth moves us to grow.

  52. As usual, I loved your post. What you have written is truly every woman’s story, slightly varying in minor details. Essentially everyone experiences the very same dichotomies you have described. There is no escape from these!

    Meena from balconysunrise.wordpress.com

  53. While reading your post, I could feel that it is ME who is speaking her own mind. You should do what you think is good.

  54. I was always like this and people would think I was acting too smart. But I’m glad more women are becoming like me! Let’s show em what we got!

  55. Mayuri Nidigallu Pinal Shah

    A very well worded post. Loved it fully. And it very well describes todays sitaution which major Women would be facing. . I think we should never let go the self love and self care for ourselves…

  56. So beautiful written, I feel most of the woman’s is just like you expressed. Idol of sacrifices and her happiness lies in others happiness.

  57. Mayuri Nidigallu Ruchi Verma

    I always love the way you play with simple words and touch the chord …This is so beautifully written ..I loved the woman which is there inside you!!

  58. You have put a great thought across that one should always aspire to fulfill their own dreams and speak what’s in the mind. Thanks for sharing.

  59. This is such a heartfelt post, very beautifully written. I can totally relate to the happiness quotient.

  60. Mayuri Nidigallu Dr Bushra

    Indeed that’s very inspiring and thought provoking for every woman with there. A woman should live life to the fullest.

  61. That’s a crisp, witty and honest one Mayuri. Loved your use of words and the way you have penned the juxtaposes. True, so many of us have silenced our inner voices. I hope this post inspires many to be the woman they aspire to be. Glad to have you back again in this blog hop and that pic is bang on! Loved it 🙂

    1. Thanks so much, Rashi for your lovely words and for these wonderful Blog Hops.

  62. Mayuri Nidigallu Jhilmil D Saha

    I bet the majority of women could relate to this, how beautifully you have explained all of these.

  63. Mayuri Nidigallu Noor Anand Chawla

    You have brought out the complexities of every woman’s personality so well. I felt like you were talking about me! Good one Mayuri. I also love the image you have used.

  64. we girls are often too hard on ourselves. Being kind and patient with yourself is so very impt as we often have to wear many hats all at the same time. This was a very nicely written compilation Mayuri 🙂

  65. We live for others and tend to forget ourselves. I just wish all women take out time to listen to their own deepest desires.

    1. You are so right, Disha. Thank you for reading.

  66. This post touched my heart. Being a woman I can relate with each word if yours. You penned down very beautifully.

  67. You are a beautiful woman inside out Mayuri. One of the most honest people I have ever come across and I am proud to call you my friend. I was smiling through out the whole poem. Loved it.

    1. Thanks so much for these lovely words, Simrit.

  68. Amazing piece…loved the poetic feel…I have always felt since those AtoZ days, that your writing is very relatable and that is its success. Hopefully we meet soon and do a tarot session 🙂

    #RRxMM #TheWomanThatIAm

  69. Very well written. Story of every woman around us. Beautifully presented.

  70. 1. I love your tatoo…it is simple awesome
    2. I loved your writing style you have captured the essense of being a woman so well and expressed it so beautifully.

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