Such a tiny word, despite which there goes a lot of thought about using it.
Why are most of us afraid to say No?
Are we people pleasers? Or just plain gutless? Yes, I have cited two extremes but I think it could be anything between the two, right?
Why do people dread saying No? Why is saying No usually preceded with a lot of internal struggle and stress, and sometimes even after all that struggle you end up saying Yes. To favours you didn’t want to do, tasks you were trying to avoid and sometimes lending money, books, clothes or things you actually did not want to lend.
The fear of being disliked and shunned by people and coming across as selfish, are usually the top two reasons to say Yes, instead of a No.
However. Believe me when I say this, the world does not end when you say No. Click To Tweet The Earth keeps circling around the Sun, not bothered about the word you used.
People whom you say No to find someone else to do them the favour they wanted out of you, or lend them something you refused to. If people dislike you for saying No, or distance themselves from you after you refuse, it’s still ok. You are rid of takers and the Earth shall still continue circling around the Sun.
But hey, you’ll like yourself more! For being brave enough to say No! So there!
So go on then, use that tiny word when you need to. It will liberate you. Or substitute it with its other lengthier forms like, ‘I would not be able to…’ or ‘I cannot help you with this…’ or just coin your own!
Say Yes to more ‘No’ and breathe easy and smile!