I recently lost a friendship. Ambiguity, and perhaps understanding running dry, wore out the thread binding two people together, and a relationship carefully nurtured over the years snapped apart.
I let it go too. Was I relieved to see it end or was I too tired to give anymore? I am still unsure.
The end of this friendship has made me look at this relationship in new light though.
Friends are the family we choose. Friendship is a relationship where we can be ourselves and say exactly what we feel, without the fear of being judged. Friendship should be a relationship where we accept and are accepted without terms and conditions. Share on X
Is that what makes us take this relationship too casually or for granted sometimes? Do we forget that we first have to give before we receive? That we have to genuinely wish for the wellbeing of our friend and be happy with them when it happens. When and if we say we have no expectations we are probably just mouthing the words and somewhere, without us realising, underlying expectations do sneak in?
Underlying expectations, unsaid words and feelings that we fight against are often trapped in between layers of love and laughter, till they start growing rancid, polluting the good and everything else.
The thread of friendship is fragile. It needs years of nurturing and layers of trust and loyalty to turn it into a strong rope that will stand the wear and tear of time and tugs of insecurity.
Friendship is never a balanced 50-50 relationship , but it has to be a 100% genuine one. Share on XIf a friendship is beginning to stifle you or tire you out. If it no longer fits just right, like it used to. If to keep it going you are paying with your peace of mind, then it is time to let it go. With gratitude for all that it may have given you and gracefully, just like you lived the friendship.
Friendship should be that invisible thread that keeps two people connected. When it starts getting tangled and knotting up is when one of you needs to let go, before it snaps.
Thank you for suggesting this topic, Manisha
Does it not hurt us when the friendship comes to a dead end? Does it not make us little more doubtful before making any new friends? I think it does and it takes a good toll on the emotional world which otherwise was perfectly protected by the bonds of friendship. It does leave behind the taste of bitterness in the mind. Getting over is a daunting task but as you said, its better to serve the ties than being dragged longer only to get damaged more.
It does hurt, Anagha. But when the friendship has run it’s course it is better to end it, than prolong it till it gets ugly.
Thanks for reading.
Letting go is hard but sometimes the best service we can do to ourselves. A relationship only with mutual love and respect and with friends we expect a little more understanding and empathy. You did right, M. It is your friend’s loss.
Any thread of friendship which takes away the peace of mind, it’s better to break it. One can try to be friends but once it gets to a point when you feel suffocated, better to let go. I know its not easy but its for your own good. Hugs M.
Friendship is a bond which can have a lot of impact on our lives. Good friendship can help you withstand storms while, the bad ones give you lessons for life. Fortunately or unfortunately have seen both, sometimes letting go of some people are better more for us.
hugz.
While reading the blog I felt u have put my thoughts in words. I so agree with u when u say it’s better to let the friendship go rather than hanging onto it expecting for its revival.
Letting go is hard, but it also relieves us from the burden of carrying ghost relations. It would have been real hard for you, but if this gives you peace and keep sanity intact thats the best choice.
Friendships are relationships that should be cherished and appreciated but not all friendships last forever. If it is not working out, it’s best to let go. It is easier said than done, but it’s needed for our peace of mind and happiness.
So agree, Shilpa! Thanks for reading!
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