Love. A very small word, built from and through big factors. Respect, honesty, loyalty, compassion, and empathy to name a few.
Nothing in the Universe escapes change. Like everything else, love undergoes various changes too. Sometimes love gets stronger and deeper as time goes by, while at other times it gets weaker and just fades away.
The fierce intensity felt in the first flush of love mellows down to a comforting warmth as a relationship strengthens.
Then there are times when it is just two people living together simply because they are habituated to being with each other, or for the children. The presence of love is marked by its absence.
Couples who live like perfect strangers under the same roof, sometimes each seeking out someone else to ‘love’.
So many dead relationships exist because there is no love anymore.
Would a spouse continue loving the other as they did, if they were abused or cheated on or their trust was broken?
We are so enamored with the word ‘love’ and the feelings we imagine it brings. We are so scared of change, that we stick to the belief that ‘nothing must change’ and don’t let go, of love or those we love.
Love is love only love when two people feel it mutually.
Love that is ‘one-sided’ and never returned is not love. One-sided love chokes the other person who does not feel the need to reciprocate. When you love someone, and the other person does not, in a way you are emotionally and mentally arm-twisting them with your ‘love’ in the hope that someday they may feel the same way.
‘Unconditional Love’ is a fallacy. Giving without receiving is like feeding someone your share while you go hungry. Click To Tweet Sooner or later, when the ‘receiver’ moves on or the ‘giver’ is taken for granted, resentment starts setting in.
Love is like a plant. It needs the soil of trust and care, the water of support and affection, and the sunlight of assurance and actions to grow.
Love diminishes and love grows too. The measure of either is never felt immediately and sometimes it is not felt at all by you, but by the other person.
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