Love. A very small word, built from and through big factors. Respect, honesty, loyalty, compassion, and empathy to name a few.
Nothing in the Universe escapes change. Like everything else, love undergoes various changes too. Sometimes love gets stronger and deeper as time goes by, while at other times it gets weaker and just fades away.
The fierce intensity felt in the first flush of love mellows down to a comforting warmth as a relationship strengthens.
Then there are times when it is just two people living together simply because they are habituated to being with each other, or for the children. The presence of love is marked by its absence.
Couples who live like perfect strangers under the same roof, sometimes each seeking out someone else to ‘love’.
So many dead relationships exist because there is no love anymore.
Would a spouse continue loving the other as they did, if they were abused or cheated on or their trust was broken?
We are so enamored with the word ‘love’ and the feelings we imagine it brings. We are so scared of change, that we stick to the belief that ‘nothing must change’ and don’t let go, of love or those we love.
Love is love only love when two people feel it mutually.
Love that is ‘one-sided’ and never returned is not love. One-sided love chokes the other person who does not feel the need to reciprocate. When you love someone, and the other person does not, in a way you are emotionally and mentally arm-twisting them with your ‘love’ in the hope that someday they may feel the same way.
‘Unconditional Love’ is a fallacy. Giving without receiving is like feeding someone your share while you go hungry. Share on X Sooner or later, when the ‘receiver’ moves on or the ‘giver’ is taken for granted, resentment starts setting in.
Love is like a plant. It needs the soil of trust and care, the water of support and affection, and the sunlight of assurance and actions to grow.
Love diminishes and love grows too. The measure of either is never felt immediately and sometimes it is not felt at all by you, but by the other person.
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This is why I keep telling you that we have a connection, because so many times we ponder upon the same thing at the same time. Mayuri, you know what, from yesterday I am constantly thinking about this one word, love. Even I asked myself that what should be my love built up on. And I got my reply as Respect, Trust and Giving Space. Also, I agree with you in everything you said how love could change over time. So beautifully written.
I am glad this post resonated with you, Swarnali. Thank you for reading.
Love diminishes and love grows too. The measure of either is never felt immediately and sometimes it is not felt at all by you, but by the other person. ~ This struck a chord. It is so true. A lot of times we spend time thinking where did we go wrong when the other person does not reciprocate . You’ve captured the thoughts so beautifully that its going to resonate with everyone.
Thank you, Pratibha.
I totally agree with you. Love unconditionally is a fallacy. It is unsustainable. A very well narrated post.
Thank you, Chinu.
A nice post, truly said, love is like a plant, it grows and it diminishes too, and it goes thru changes too.
Thank you, Pragun.
Very nice post.I totally agree with you.
Thank you, Sonali.
Nice post on LOVE.
Thank you.
Unconditional love is a myth, true. We should learn to accept the limits and limitations of human love.
Thank you.
Certainly, love can grow and diminish as you said. Most of the time, I have experienced this in my relationships with my friends. They have been so close to me emotionally, I have loved them so much and with time this has changed.
That is so true, Aesha.
The two way street of love.Such a difficult thing to find really.A very insightful post .
Love is an interesting feeling and a two way street as you very rightly said.A very insightful post.
Thank you, Amrita.
every person changes as per the experiences faced in a relationship. whether it grows or diminishes with time is different of every relationship.
Well said, Ujjwal.
Beautifully penned.
Thanks.
Sometimes it is really important to question yourself about love in relationships.
True that, Neha.
Wonderfully expressed. Love diminishes or grow with time and our way of expressing our love too changes tremendously with time.
Thank you, Charu.
The post is an eye-opener. As you said many of them are containing a dead relationship even without realising it. This is a sad situation
Thank you, Rakhi.
You have covered all the points so well. Love is both simple and complex, and you have dissected it so well with crystal clear clarity.
Thanks so much, Tina.
Beautiful and a great read for the evening.
Thank you.
I often think about love and have so many thoughts, sometimes I go too deep. Over the years your understanding grows I feel, but this 4 letter word I feel encompasses so much.
Love grows if you nurture it well as you said, sometimes it diminishes. Sometimes it’s there, you just need that nudge of expressing.
A good post on “Love”, that is worth pondering upon.
After 55 years of living together, my friend’s parents are filing for divorce. She is 84 and he is 89. Both are fit but they say their love died many years ago. In retrospect, I feel that sometimes, its more about the person becoming a habit rather than being an object of affection. Love can diminish over time, I guess…but on the positive side, it can grow too. Fab post, Mayuri! Made me reflect on life and love. Keep writing! I LOVE your thought-provoking posts.
“Love is like a plant. It needs the soil of trust and care”
Loved these lines
For me, Love is an emotion and we feel it just like all the other emotions and feelings. And, it is based on so many factors so yes, it can grow and diminish, it can change into another emotion and there can’t be unconditional love.
Fantastic read! Very well written.
oh what a beautiful post. Like everything , love also changes. It can increase or diminish. But the truth is love is what makes this life so beautiful!
No a days I am feeling like this Only. Wish I can bring back that spark back.
Love given unconditionally is the best kind. However, love can undergo a change or diminish as life goes on, especially of there is a deficit of trust or a hint of possessiveness or violence. A wonderful post, thank you!
Love surely needs the patience and nurturing of all the people involved. One-sided love can’t last for long.
I so agree with you it is important to keep your love alive and I think little things of care and affection keeps it alive. All the factors and feelings you mentioned becomes an expectation when the word love comes in a relationship.
The presence of love is marked by its absence. Such a profound line, it blew me away! Really liked reading this post.
Beautiful definitions of Love from different perspectives. Love is undoubtedly like a pant that needs the soil of trust to grow, the water of support and care.
So true. Everything changes. The only thing which is constant is a Change itself. Emotions grow or die. They aren’t permanent
Love which cannot be measured can grow and diminish without notice too. We need to be aware of all the factors that keep us feel loved in the presence of a person. Thought provoking post.
I think live means different thing to different people for me live is respect. If a person doesn’t not respect me I don’t think I can ever love Thai person and yes it grows and sometimes diminishes too.. if you believe in it hold on to it.
I think love means different thing to different people for me love is respect. If a person doesn’t not respect me I don’t think I can ever love That person and yes it grows and sometimes diminishes too and cannot be one sided. if you believe in it hold on to it.
How well described. Yes many failed marriage couples stay together because of kids. Love your take on this
Yeah I also think love depends on the two individuals concerned.