My Husband and I are as different from each other as apples differ from oranges. Amongst our many differences the one I couldn’t come to terms with was that he is messy while I am a neatnik.
I am organised and meticulous while he is carefree about being disorganised. There is a place for everything and everything in place is my mantra while my husband believes otherwise.
I used to keep fretting to myself wondering why he couldn’t be neater and more like me when I realised what if he thought the same? What if he wondered why couldn’t I be less organised and more like him?
This thought bought instant clarity, about the differences between people and our acceptance of them.
How many times have we internally fretted about different issues?
‘I loved Maths and excelled in it, why does my Son hate it and is so poor at it!’
‘I love cooking and find it therapeutic, why can’t my daughter enjoy it like I do instead of grudging it?’
‘Why isn’t my spouse fun loving and adjusting like other spouses?’
Do we like being accepted as we are or do we like it when we are corrected?
There are different dimensions to each person. The right thing to do would be to accept them all. What facet may not seem right to you maybe one of the facets the person is proud of.
Imagine how it would make you feel if you were asked to change an aspect you thought was your forte? When you set out to classify and customise people there is a chance that you may erase an aspect of the person that is very dear to them.
The key is to let people be and accept them as they are. Offer ideas and suggestions only when genuinely asked for.Everyone is perfect, in their eyes at least. Click To Tweet