So a bunch of us Girls were having a serious professional discussion one day when, before we realized, we began pouring our hearts out to each other (we are Girls, that’s how we roll!)
In the midst of this crazy, baring-our-souls-out, conversation one of us remarked that thankfully we don’t look like all that we’ve all gone through. We all had a good guffaw when I retorted, ‘Vanity is my Sanity’. Long after the conversation was over those words lingered in my thoughts.
You know how we all go through ups and downs, some more than the others, some even more than those? When sometimes we let the world define us and make us feel? How we start looking at ourselves through the eyes of people who do not, or should not, matter to us?
Well, the next time that happens put a stop to that by chanting, ‘Vanity is my Sanity’, every time you feel a negative emotion bubbling up. For each time you frown, you deepen your chances of lines and wrinkles, each time you purse your lips you look mean (yes, you do!). Each time you narrow your eyes, those crow’s feet fanning them lodge in deeper and each time you do this all, you work towards looking harsh. And then you get even more depressed!
So you what is the one single thing that helps undo it all?
A smile.
The true smile that comes from deep within your heart, travels through the starburst of your eyes and blooms on your lips (you are smiling as you read this aren’t you, as you imagine its journey?!)
Do you have any idea how expensive cosmetic treatments are these days? No? Then lucky you, as ignorance is bliss.
So, send up a prayer of Gratitude for all that life has brought you and taught you. And an extra special one for those who you think may have wronged you.
As;
The ones you didn’t stand by you, taught you to stand alone.
The ones who didn’t speak up for you forced you to find your voice.
The ones who didn’t live up to your expectations made you realize what they were truly worth.
For people can give you only what they have, it is our folly that we expect what they can’t.
So whenever you think your problems are big, remind yourself that as long as you have a roof over your head, have not skipped your last meal, have more than 3 pairs of clothes and shoes to wear, wi-fi, and don’t owe anyone any money, you are one blessed soul.
Don’t let anyone undeserving steal your happiness, rule your thoughts, make you frown and cry and give you wrinkles. Save up the money, you would later use to undo all the damage you did to yourself, and go on a holiday instead and smile, and repeat to yourself Vanity is my Sanity!
Vanity is truly my sanity. I want to look good ,so I honestly try the happy thought inside formula.
I loved how you mentioned wifi as a must have☺.We are indeed blessed and privileged
Any bad behaviour on our part makes this all meaningless.
We can’t really expect people to give what they don’t have.
Excellently put.
I am glad I am stronger than I look .
Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts, Amrita 🙂
This is such a wonderful and heartfelt post Mayuri.
And also the best thing to read first on a Monday morning. Vanity is indeed our sanity. 😉
Glad you liked reading it, Ramya. Thank you fro dropping by:)
Wow what a thought. Till date I considered vanity as a necessary evil. After all you ought to look presentable in front of the world. But this is an all together different angle to vanity. Kudos and Thanks !
And isn’t it even more doable this way, Anupriya? 🙂 Thank you for dropping by:)
Good way to start Monday with a heartfelt post from you Mayuri
Thank you, Manisha 🙂
Ah ! I just needed this post today. Was sulking about some silly things but yup I need look at the good things and cheer and smile a bit more !
Glad you read it at the right time, Ramya:) Thank you for dropping by.
Awesome post Mayuri. Glad I read it as it’s been a crazy day today. So your post made me happy and I am smiling right now. I agree with you on all the points. We should be thankful and remember that all this frowning and stress is useless. it is important to be happy with your loved ones and standing alone is better than standing with a wrong person (learnt it the hard way). 🙂
Yes, Deepa. Sometimes we are stronger alone. Keep shining:)
To tell you the truth, women always fret over looking good. Some do silly things; some others go overboard but like you said we may often neglect the simplest of things like a lovely smile. As difficult as it is to do, it is in our best interest not to fret over what others say about us. Like you said, say a prayer for them and do what you have to do. Very nice post that explores that beauty is not just skin deep.
Thanks, Rachna. I love your smile 🙂
Lovely post Mayuri! Women are always women. The best thing we can do for ourselves is ignore and move on. Just include them in your prayer and do other things that are more important to you. In fact the world is such a big place and we are sure to find such people all over again and again.
You are so right, MB:) Thanks for dropping by.
That was awesome Mayuri!Next time I am down,I will make sure I chant ‘Vanity is my Sanity’.
Thanks, Subha. Do that!:)
You post reminded me of this quote by Khalil Gibran – “I have learned silence from the talkative, toleration from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind; yet, strange, I am ungrateful to those teachers.”
Thanks for the reminder. Much needed.
I love that Gibran quote too. Thank you, Parul 🙂
Such a heartfelt post, Mayuri. And it is doable too. To smile is the easiest thing to do! 🙂
I loved the way you have described the journey of the smile – and yes I was smiling when I read that. What a gorgeous thought and a writeup on it – good one Mayuri
What a beautiful post Mayuri! <3 Sometimes words written, can heal you and make you much saner than any spoken words can.
Haha! Vanity is my sanity there, I feel better already coz I can hear ka-ching in my bank account
Well said vanity is my sanity.
Also totally agree that makeup is so costly so better we stay beautiful at heart and glow
Glad you liked reading it, Dixita.
This truly is going to be my new mantra “Vanity is my Sanity.” I’ve been in the dumps since a while now, but today, I am going to look into the mirror and let myself know how precious I am!
You go, girl!!
Whenever I am down I do think of all the good things and I feel blessed.
I try a lot to do this -, Don’t let anyone undeserving steal your happiness, rule your thoughts, make you frown and cry and give you wrinkles, but I fail sometimes. Still, I am trying to overcome and I am sure I will 🙂
I know you will, Manisha. Thanks for reading.
The truth behind many successful people are their tears.No one wants to see what’s behind the work .An excellent take on finding purpose and inner peace
The one thing that keeps me going is that I don’t forget the past and I’m grateful for a number of things and to people. Time and again they remind me that this shall pass on . Wonderful take Mayuri
I resonated with this so much and you would know. When you did my tarot reading it’s exactly what you said. While I am most of the time seeking validity elsewhere now I am consciously making a point to not let others opinions matter.
That’s a beautiful thought to start a day Mayuri. Sometimes we tend to take all these things for granted.
This post gives me hope! I mean, really. We fret over so many unnecessary things and I’m not ashamed to confess to the same. But sometimes, all you need is a smile.