Why Karma and I are not friends anymore


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Karma:

The sum of a person’s actions in this and previous states of existence, viewed as deciding their fates in future existences.

Good or bad luck, viewed as resulting from one’s actions.

For as long as I can remember I had been a believer of Karma. I grew up reading about it, hearing about it being talked about at home, discussed among friends and strangers alike.

Karma meant ‘you would get your due, when the time was right’ and/or ‘what you did came back to you’. Karma was supposed to be cool that way.

So I believed. I waited, and did the best I could while I did.

I waited. The cows came home, many times over and I was still waiting, ‘to get my due’.

As I waited and did the right things, unpleasant things happened to me, and kept happening. People who were family and friends, people who were supposed to have my back kept stabbing it. People who I wished well for, wished ill for me. People whom I helped out, hurt me.

This happened with clockwork regularity, on repeat mode. Even as I waited for ‘Karma to give me my due’.

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By now I had started getting impatient, and started feeling pretty foolish too, with this concept of Karma. While I waited I began to realise a few things;

Believing in Karma was like hiring someone to do your dirty work for you:

Yes, that is how it had begun to feel like. You waiting patiently, all safe and clean, while you kept prodding Karma to get back on your behalf. Not cool at all!

Believing in Karma is silent vengeance:

You know those people who get this noble, ‘I could not hurt a fly’ look on their faces when they think they may have attained greatness? It made me realise that you could be acting all pious, and believing you are too, but somewhere there is vendetta brewing inside.

Karma keeps you connected:

When I am done with someone, I am truly done with someone. That person ceases to exist for me. I realised that Karma kept me connected to people I don’t like or want to be part of my life, as they continued to be in my thoughts what with me wondering if Karma had got back to them.

What do I think of people who believe in Karma?

Everyone is welcome to have their beliefs. I hope they get to keep their faith.

I know people for whom ‘conscience’ is an alien concept. People who use everything, from death to disease, even their children, to get their way and move forward. Who think nothing of coveting what is someone else’s and destroying something beautiful. Whose only aim in life is to cause and spread unhappiness. And they sleep well despite it all, justifying their wrongs as rights.

I don’t know if Karma exists or doesn’t. What I do know is that it just doesn’t work for me. Click To Tweet I now believe in reacting in the moment, so people get what they give me. I am much happier this way.

My Mom believes in and keeps reminding me of a previous life and an afterlife. With all due respect, I have trouble remembering what I did last week, so obviously the concept of what I may or may not have done on my past life to go through all that I am going through in this life is redundant for me.

As for collecting brownie points for my next life? Oh please!

27 thoughts on “Why Karma and I are not friends anymore

  1. I kinda agree with most of what you say about karma, yet I would like to continue believing in it. Reason? It keeps me grounded and helps me sail through situations beyond my control. But really enjoyed reading it.

  2. Hmm..thought provoking post. When you believe in something and it just keeps on going wrong, slowly the belief and its effect fade away. I don’t know if karma works or not but I surely think it exists.

  3. I am a firm believer in Karma Mayuri, as in the past I have felt and seen that yes Karma comes back. In my own blood relations, friends have seen people paying for their bad karma.
    Probably time is something which we cannot predict, but trust me – jo jaise karta hai, vaisa phal milta hai.
    You have your reasons and I respect them but trust me your good deeds will not go wasted. Love, Dipika.

  4. I agree with you completely. It does not work for me. I think, Karma is biased. While, it gives me back for whatever wrong I do, immediately, it does not even meet the people whom it should be kicking the most!

  5. your post put my grey matter to work. Karma to me means “as you sow so shall you reap” n I strongly believe in it. At the same time I also believe that Karma should not make us feeble, as the article tries to convey this thought beautifully; infact , it should empower us.

  6. I love, love this article, Mayuri. Yes, it always seems to me too, that nasty persons get away with murder. Whereas the better persons are always straddled with duties, responsibilities and have “not so good”people around them. Wonderful post. It somehow made me feel better and lighter!

  7. I’ve seen people burden others by calling their ill fate as some bad Karma striking back. For all we know, Karma would be enjoying all the limelight without doing anything for it.
    We should just do what we like for people we like. I know we aren’t saints to be completely selfless but expecting anything good or bad isn’t fair to us.

  8. Like you I’ve questioned Karma a lot of times, not only in my personal context but also in the context of others. Karma is something like faith. You either believe in it or you don’t. I guess it is a way of making people more responsible in their actions as they fear that what they do will be repaid back to them. Not sure if that always transpires. So I don’t really know on which side of the fence I sit or maybe right on the fence.

  9. When I see murderers/ rapists / criminals / scamsters roaming in open or getting Scott free, I tend to question the existence of the Karma rule. But then I am given to believe that the pots of the sins of such people is yet not filled to the brim! Crazy it sounds.
    However when it comes to practice, I follow the Karma rule for myself. Because, I know if I sow a good corn seed, I will get the golden corn on cob! If I sow a rotten corn seed, I will have to keep on looking at others who will be relishing the tasty crunchy corn.

  10. I believe that good or bad it comes back to you in many ways. So try to do good for yourself and others. I have experienced it and feels sometimes it takes a lot of time but your good or bad comes back.

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